I was watching a family Guy episode and it really reminded me of some of the things that my friends have done in the past. If you haven't watched family guy by now I highly recommend you do. That’s one of the best shows that I’ve seen that always knows how the make me laugh. The writers on the show are straight geniuses and produce the funniest content today.
Anyways, the show had Stuwie break up from a girl that he was seen and it showed him doing all these things to win her back. He bought her roses, he sang her a song, and he did all these things that ultimately drove her even further away. It’s only when he started not caring and even started treating her like crap where she started to come around. It was just a funny little thing that was kind of true in real life.
It’s weird, all of the people that I’ve known who are wildly successful with women tend not to care what they do and say when they’re around them. In fact, a lot of them even step on some of their toes with the things that they sa or doy. However, even though they temporarily make the girl angry they always seem to get the girl at the end of the day.
Then you have other guys that treat women like their angels and buy them all sorts of gifts and flowers. You would think that these type of guys would be the successful ones. However, they’re usually the ones that get stood up and gets the "let’s just be friends” speech.
I’ve seen many of my friends suffer relationships because they weren’t strong enough men and gave their power away to the women they were seeing. Again, a lot of these guys would take them out on nice expensive dinners and buy them all sorts of different things, but at the end of the day they didn’t get the girl.
Now I’m not saying that guys should treat girls like crap. That’s the last thing I’m trying to say. I don’t want a bunch of guys disrespecting girls and not treating them with the type of the respect that they deserve. However, that doesn’t mean you should give away your power and revolve your whole life around them.
I was browsing around on a site called Breakup Hub, which I mentioned in a few posts already. The site revolves around how to get your ex back and all these different breakup tips. It really hits the nail on the head with some of the things they say especially for guys trying to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back. What they advise, and what I’ve seen to work in the real world, is to not give away your power when you are trying to revive a relationship.
The tendency guys make when breaking up is telling their ex how sorry they are, how everything was their fault, and showing how much of a was there. I like that site because it advises guys to stay calm, don’t freak out, take a step back away from the relationship, and talk to their ex from a position of security.
So if you’re in a relationship or have broken up from a relationship try to keep these things in mind. Stay being a man and never give away your power. This doesn’t mean you should overpower a woman were under power but it means to respect them and retain the power that you hold.